It's also a conversation about staying grounded and empowered even in less than satisfying circumstances.
How To Embrace Everything You Do
He went on to say, “I hate it but I have to do it.” I understood what he meant, but he was mistaken. He didn't have to do anything--and that's a fact. The truth is we don't ever do anything we don't want to--even though we might tell ourselves otherwise.
The fact is, if we dig deep enough, we will discover we have reasons for wanting to do every single thing we do, all things considered. For instance, I might not (on the surface) want to hand wash and vacuum my car, but if I really think about it, I do it because I like a clean car.
We always have a choice—and if we really think about it, we can find the reasons that, all things considered, we actually want to do whatever we choose to do. If that's so, how should I view the things I might tell myself "I don't want to do that?"
Telling myself "I don't want to do this but I have to" is the way of the victim. Owning the deeper reason I choose to do something is the way of empowerment.
* A version of this post originally appeared in www.womenworking.com where I am a frequent guest coach and blogger.